Sex Workers Take On The Loneliness Epidemic
As I mentioned in my previous post, I had the unique and amazing opportunity to write an article on legal sex workers for Alice Little, a vivacious courtesan and inspirational author. I think it’s a critical time to look at all the benefits from offering unique forms of intimacy – some in which are not widely considered. This is especially true in a time when rights for these godlike creatures are being stripped.
Please Enjoy the article I wrote, as the first of many that I hope to share.
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It’s so sad that despite all of the great technology we use to connect us, so many people are feeling left behind and lonely. In fact, people of all gender identities from all over are suffering from a worldwide loneliness epidemic, and one large contributor is that many people are unsatisfied with the amount of intimacy in their lives. Thankfully, sex workers can help! Whether it’s by physical touch, like the feeling of finger tips gently caressing your thigh, or having somebody to confide in your deepest, darkest secrets, sex workers are wonderful people to turn to because they have such a wide breadth of knowledge when it comes to intimate relationships. Here are some ways that sex workers can help, if you’re one of the thousands experiencing a feeling of loneliness you can’t quite shake.
A Safe Place
Sex workers give you a safe place to discuss your desires and be heard, judgment free. For male identifiers especially, it is a societal stigma to be seen as vulnerable, so many men feel that they have to hide a part of themselves to maintain the persona of ‘dominant protector.’ And for female identifiers, we are too often told not to speak up for what we want. With sex workers, the chances are, they’ve heard it all before, seen it all before, and done it all before, so you can express what you want without fear of being seen as weak, needy, or naughty. In fact, it’s a great place to bring your naughtiest ideas! If you’re having a bad day and just need to vent, you can find salvation and relief by resting your head on a lover’s lap, and letting your feelings flow freely. Sex Workers can provide an extremely safe place, emotionally, physically and environmentally, for a true bonding experience.
Physical Contact
Physical contact has so many amazing benefits that create a healthy and happy lifestyle. Sex can help reduce stress levels, and can even boost your immune system due to the chemicals your body releases during arousal and orgasm. Unfortunately, the more attached we become to our screens, the less opportunity for in-person relationships. It’s increasingly difficult to put down our devices, especially when they become a substitute for the intimate affection that we crave even from birth, and statistics say that those who are glued to their screens are at higher risk of loneliness. Whether you just want to fall into a woman’s arms for a night of cuddling, caressing and giggles, or are interested in something more erotic, sex workers can provide a satisfying sense of deep interpersonal companionship with soft, supple, skin on skin contact that leaves you feeling fulfilled and connected.
The More You Know…
The opposite of loneliness is the feeling of belonging. This is incredibly hard to achieve when you lack information, and feel like you’re the only one with a certain kink or fetish, or like you, alone, don’t have the skills to charm someone who you find attractive. Sex workers are as whip smart as they are sexy, which makes them a great resource when you want to learn more about your sexual fantasies in a judgment-free zone, and maybe even have a professional show you how to bring them to life. When sex workers know how to make your wildest dreams a reality, they’re also showing you that you aren’t the only person in the world who possesses this desire, and often just having that knowledge can make you feel less isolated and find that sense of belonging. If it’s a struggle to even talk to someone you’re attracted to, who better to practice on than a patient and savvy expert who might even give you a spicy reward when you get it right, or a titillating punishment if you get it wrong?
Practice Makes Perfect
There’s nothing quite like the tender touch of another’s body, moving in a rhythmic sequence with your own, extracting pleasure from each other with every soft touch and subtle motion. However, these profound experiences can be tough to bring into fruition, and if you’re shy, out of practice, or just new to the world of exploring your sexuality, it can seem like the most daunting task. Sometimes it feels so uncomfortable and awkward to approach someone with the hopes of establishing a intimate relationship that the tendency is to avoid it all together. Don’t let fear get in the way of achieving the moments you treasure most! Being with a sex worker can help take the pressure off while you (re)familiarize yourself with having satisfying, sensual contact. They can guide your touch, as well as your communication, turning your practice into a mind-blowing experience. As your confidence increases, your anxiety decreases, making way for you to focus on the joy of real connection. Your confidence can translate to other aspects of your life as well, which is a huge bonus!
Lasting Connection
Sex workers come in all different shapes and sizes, and I don’t just mean physically. There are several different types of sex workers who come with different specialties, meaning you can cater your experience to fit your specific needs! The Girlfriend Experience is just one example of how to have intimate connection that extends beyond the bedroom, which many people who suffer from loneliness could benefit greatly from. There is no shortage of legal sex workers who love getting to know their clients better, and who enjoy building on their relationships over time. Whether it’s a late night phone call, a regular check in, or even a sweet message on your birthday, knowing that you have a special someone there for you and thinking about you can make all the difference.
Doesn’t this sound too good to be true?! Well, it’s not! Seeking out sex work is a safe, satisfying and super fun way to conquer loneliness, so take a deep breath and go for it!
