Why All Women Should Look In The Mirror… Bent Over, Backwards & Nekkid
I can say with 100% certainty that I am far from unique, being a woman who spends more time then necessary fretting about what’s “wrong” with my body. We all have a narrative that we’ve been telling ourselves for years and years, and it’s become so ingrained in our brains that it becomes increasingly difficult to look in the mirror and see anything other then that “double chin” or “wide hips” or “huge legs” or what have you. We see images of others plastered on social media, media campaigns, television and so forth… images that ooze “perfection” and we punish ourselves and beat ourselves up for not looking like THAT.
Well, the thing is, whether it’s Instagram, television, magazines, pornography, etc., a huge part of what this image is selling is sex. We are afraid when we don’t look like these images, but WHY are we so afraid? Because society tries to make us feel like, in order to be worthy of sex (and therefore, love) we must look like that, and we believe it. That way, we will spend whatever we can on maintaining our youth and enhancing our beauty.
But the reality is, no matter how much we spend we aren’t going to feel any different. The notion that we must fit this specific image, or we won’t know love, actually couldn’t be further from the truth. Of course, I could back this up with data, and state that all different types of men (and women) are attracted to all different shapes, sizes, colors, and types of women, but I’m guessing you know that to a degree, especially if you’re like me and spend too much time obsessing over it.
The truth is, knowing it on an intellectual level simply isn’t enough. We, as women, have to feel it to believe it, and THAT is where the problem is!
This is precisely why I am telling you to spend some time getting up close and extremely personal with yourself in the mirror. I’m not just talking about looking at yourself naked, singling out parts of you’re body that you’re maybe okay with, while you frantically try and avoid the parts of you that you don’t find ideal (although, spending time pointing out what you DO like about yourself can help.)
This is me officially prescribing you to get butt-ass naked, turn yourself around, bend over, and stay there for as long as you can (without passing out) and enable yourself to get a good, hard look at your sex. And don’t just look… absorb.
Take the time in this stunning new perspective to observe yourself. Notice the shape of your curves and cheeks… are you a heart? Or a peach? Is your crack a juicy slit, secretly hiding your luxurious depths? Or is it barely there, displaying all that’s in between? Do you have creases underneath your magnificent booty, making a definitive line between your buttocks and legs? Do you have dimples? You can see, from this new point of view, that is doesn’t quite matter, because there, in the center of it all is your point of power… your flower like, completely unique vagina, as grand as any magic on the planet. It your very own, personal source of pleasure, it’s what brings you children, it’s what connects you to the cycle of life, it’s the very nature of you.
When you spend enough time there, you’ll know, because you won’t just understand what a complex, beautiful and perfect creature you actually are… you’ll feel it. Not just then, when you’re looking straight at it; you’ll feel it when you’re walking around the grocery store, or shopping at the mall. You’ll feel it when you’re on the subway, or driving in your car. You’ll feel it when you’re getting dressed to go to work, and when you’re getting undressed to have sex. It’ll be like a secret that you hold near and dear to your heart, a secret that everyone else wants to know, and you can carry it with you always.
And perhaps next time you see some stupid billboard, poster, movie, etc., instead of feeling down you’ll give yourself a little visit and be reminded that we are multidimensional goddesses, each uniquely perfect and deserving of love.
