Dating Advice: How Do I Take On My Insecurities?
It takes a lot to combat insecurities, but you can do it!
It’s no small feat to tackle insecurities. Not only are insecurities typically enforced by society, but they’re also sometimes enforced by unexpected people, like our families.
The most important person who reinforces our insecurities is (drum roll please) ourselves.
Identify Your Insecurities
A great place to start is to get really specific about what your insecurities are. This can be tricky because they might manifest in different ways, like jealousy or procrastination.
For instance, I might procrastinate writing a blog post. It might seem like the blog post is the problem, but the root of this issue is what specifically is causing the procrastination. Maybe I recently received a rejection letter from a publication, or my last post didn’t perform well. Essentially, what I’m really experiencing is fear that I’m not talented or good enough to keep going, and it’s manifesting in my procrastination. That fear is my specific insecurity, in that case.
Facing Your Insecurities
Realizing where the real issue is stemming from is only half the battle, because now you’ve got the answer questions, like: AM I a talented writer? Do I have anything to offer?
If you’re a normal person, you’ve probably been spinning your own narrative to lean toward the negative. Whether it’s because the belief was engrained in you from childhood, or our own nature meant to protect ourselves from taking risks and facing rejection. We tend to accept a lot of negative beliefs about ourselves as truths.
They’re not, though. The sooner you can accept that, the sooner you can reject the thoughts that cause you unhappiness.
Focus On The Positives
The truth is, there’s always going to be someone “better” and there’s always going to be someone “worse”. You have the hand your dealt, and focusing on what YOU can uniquely contribute to the world, relationships, etc., is what’s going to give you self-esteem.
It’s a long and hard road- some might say impossible, to tackle insecurities. Don’t beat yourself up if it takes years to achieve. But… you gotta start somewhere!
